Fear & Phobia

fear is to be afraid. phobia is to be extremely afraid. yet why do we have phobias? why is it that we fear? some people say that they are born with it. but we are only born with two phobias which are fear of loud noises and fear of falling. even these fears can be easily overcome.




lets say you are afraid of bugs. granted some bugs are poisonous and you may use this to argue your case. but even so, why would you be afraid? sure it may be poisonous but shouldn't you be more cautious instead of afraid?

there are two basic ways to stop your phobias. either keep confronting it until you are not afraid, or think about something else when you are facing it.

but lets use our brains for a moment. lets think, why would we be afraid in the first place? when you think about it rationally, there is no reason to be afraid of anything. spontaneous things don't occur and everything is bound by the laws of physics.

you won't sink into the bed if you sleep without the lights. you won't get chocked to death just because you are in a small room. you won't die if you touch a cockroach (though you may still find it disgusting).

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now then, a little side note.

if you are afraid of something because of a myth you heard, confirm it. don't believe everything you read on the internet.

suddenly you don't what to drink coke because it can dissolve meat in a day? please. unless you actually tried those stupid chain mails to prove this, you will still drink it without fear.

bloody mary? come on people. i tried it and my eyes are both still intact.

if you can't prove it, disprove it. if you can't disprove it, then it probably isn't worth fearing.

if you are afraid of something because of a bad experience, then guess what, we learn of experience. we make mistakes and learn from it. there is no point hiding and running away.

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we fear because of irrational reasons. press the pause button and think about all your fear and ask yourself why. there probably isn't a good reason. its alright to be cautious. its alright to run away when the odds are not on your side. but there is absolutely no point in being afraid of anything.

P.S. being shocked or surprised is not being afraid. if someone suddenly pokes you you are merely shocked. a natural reaction to avoid potential danger.