Love and Romance

it seems amazing with the fact that an English lesson turned into a talk about love and romance. the thing is, where's the difference? a person that can love doesn't mean that they can be romantic and vice verse. being romantic is having the ability to charm. but love is completely different. when a person is only romantic, they are wearing a mask that shows as if that they are in love. but in reality, they are merely bluffing. a person can say that they love you but not mean it. but because we find the person being romantic, we tend to believe that it is true.

but what if they're both? putting it simply, a person needs to know whether or not it is true love that they are dealing with, or just a mere infatuation. so this basically brings us down to one possible question that we must all think about. what is love?

to know what is love, we must first know what is loving. there are many type of love. love for your parents, siblings. love for your country, love for music, etc. in this case we are exploring about the love for a partner. loving someone ( your partner ) is the willingness to care for that person without condition such as illnesses and physical changes. when loving someone, you are willing to care despite changes around you and your partner. loving someone is also the ability to stand up for yourself. loving is the bravery to have your freedom and choice, NOT doing everything your partner wants to. love CAN'T be represented by committing suicide or harming oneself because when together, they have already given each other their lives by spending the rest of their lives together. hurting yourself to prove your love just means that your partner doesn't truly love you to be willing to see you being hurt in the first place. and especially for girls, loving doesn't mean that you must sleep with them. people that threaten to leave you or sleep with them are people who you should not have been with in the first place. love is most importantly about respect. respect for yourself and those around you.

when someone truly loves you, they give you your space, they respect you, and they never fail to make you happier. when someone really loves you, they would be willing to accept it if you say no. they would be happy for you and constantly encourage you. and most importantly they can be happy just because you are happy.

more and more people are having short relationships. this is because when they get a feeling, they automatically assume that it is love when it is in fact only an infatuation. an infatuation means that you are liking someone for certain reasons only. money, fame, beauty, etc. upon finding out that their partners have bad qualities within them, they break up. in worse cases, a person gets into a relationship with only an intention to use the person.

we constantly hope to find true and everlasting love. but looking to hard can lead to desperation. and desperation can lead to considering anyone that comes in your way. let time allow love to find its way to you. at the mean time, love could just be staring at your face and you may have not noticed.